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Post by loxfiredance on Jan 4, 2010 9:48:12 GMT -5
I just wanted to ask your opinions on something petzy that's bothered me a lot over the years. I've played petz since I was ten, and have been part of the PC for about 5 years now.
And since then, I have noticed a lack of manners from various areas.
I know full well that there are many, many people, in both the PC and here at RKC, that have a polite attitude to things and are ALWAYS grateful/say thankyou to other PC members. I know of people who reply to showing threads each time their pet is placed with a small courteous thanks, and it really makes me smile. I don't mean you guys at all.
However, it really, REALLY bugs me, when I hex or breed something for someone, or they adopt successfully from Boggart, and they don't even let me know they recieve the pet. I'm not asking for a letter or essay of undying love - just a small 'thankyou, I got him!' is all I ask. But there are many people who can't, or won't, go to the effort to type three words in reply.
It's like....do I not deserve the decency of a reply? A small thanks? A note of receipt? Does anyone else get really wound up over this?
Or, if you help/send someone anything over AIM or MSN, they change the subject and act like they've not got anything from you. I think that drives me mad the most - if they can sit and talk about other crud with you, then they can say 'thankyou!' for the pet/help/whatever that you've just sent them.
Idk, I just feel the PC has gotten so lazy lately. I can understand people are busy with school, work, boyfriends, other commitments - but honestly, does it really take so long to exhibit manners? I know of people who spend like, 7 hours a day on Petz forums (myself included at times, rofl) and yet can't ever be bothered to reply to PMs, emails, or whatever else you've sent them. Surely if you can spend that much time on the computer, you can whisk me a quick thanks for that pet I sent you. ugh.
I know, I'm ranting...but does anyone else get super angry when they don't get any appreciation for their kindness? I dunno if its a new thing or what...I never remember being this angry about it before. :/
Opinions?
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Post by Rinkái on Jan 4, 2010 10:59:21 GMT -5
I generally don't mind, so long as they said "thanks" in their application, or showed them off somewhere. *shrugs*
Idk, I guess I'm more laid back about it? xDD I try to reply to all the shows I place in, and I sometimes reply to emails if I'm asked to... but generally I just assume that the person knows they're appreciated, since I really do feel grateful to the people who give me petz/art/etc.
edit: I will admit, however, that it does bother me when people adopt petz from the freebies board and just put the petz name & their email... No "Can I have (insert name) please?" or "Thank you!".
That's only since it doesn't take very long to tag those words onto a post. >_____O;; And it's kinda rude to just put the bare minimum.
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Post by loxfiredance on Jan 4, 2010 11:03:36 GMT -5
But what about if you gave someone a special pet as a gift, and you never got thanked for it? Would you be as willing to adopt out to that person? It might be well & good assuming they're grateful, but how long does it take to just reply with a 'thanks!' or something? Idk, I just remember the ~days~ when showing appreciation to others was commonplace
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Post by shebaatje on Jan 4, 2010 11:13:59 GMT -5
I agree.
Personally, I think it's the normal thing to do...to show your appreciation to someone. And it would be a smart thing to do to...just like you said, when you sent a pet over to someone and they don't even reply with a short 'thank you' will definitley stay with you and when that same person applies for a pet again, you'll be thinking about it. If a person helps you out the very least you can do is offer him a 'thanks'. That way everyone is happy and there would be no need for anyone to get so upset or angry about...well, something so insignificant. Don't get me wrong, I can imagine how you feel and I would feel the same way if something like this would happen to me over and over again. After a while you don't even want to help out some people, because of their lack of kindness.
I see alot of people saying they liked the pc better a couple of years ago..I wouldn't know since I only recently joined. But I think you don't stand alone with yout opinion about this matter. it might even be good that you have said this out loud so everyone knows.
Well..this is just my opinion, but I'm glad I got to say it. Thank you^_^.
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Post by loxfiredance on Jan 4, 2010 11:21:31 GMT -5
^ Thanks for your input, guys I honestly think there should be a new rule for adopting things, where anyone who fails to show some manners gets blacklisted or something. I know I lose respect for people who are impolite about things like that. I wait a few days for a reply email, see the person posting on forums, and think to myself - well, do they want the pet/like it/etc or have I wasted my time?!
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Post by Reloaded on Jan 4, 2010 12:20:47 GMT -5
A please and thank you are never wrong. Neither does it take much ability to write those down now does it take much time.
so please guys, being polite is much aprecitated everywhere.
thank you for reading
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Post by loxfiredance on Jan 4, 2010 12:40:32 GMT -5
It's only a few people who are actually without manners. I'm talking about the minority here. You can't tell me you don't feel happy when someone thanks you for doing something for them /giving them a pet!
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Post by Alex@Marvel on Jan 4, 2010 12:50:11 GMT -5
Now, I will agree there is a lack of manners from people who never say thank you and/or beg for things..or are just plain rude.
Although sending an email back with a thankyou is not a big thing for me, I also make it a point to say thank you to the person through im, pm, or right in the thread. ^^
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Post by loxfiredance on Jan 4, 2010 13:32:00 GMT -5
Yeah. Like I say, I don't expect an essay or a love-letter. Just a quick thanks for actually sending them something.
I don't just mean emails. IM, PM, etc are all forms of communication. I honestly just think the PC could do with more politeness.
As someone who doesn't care about whether you show the pet off or not, I at least expect confirmation you actually received it!
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Post by Croag on Jan 4, 2010 13:36:46 GMT -5
I don't really mind. I don't hand out many petz, and moat of them don't get shown off. But it's not like i don't keep copies of them. So if it corrupted or didn't work, I don't really need to know if it's been received OK! n_n
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Post by Arty on Jan 4, 2010 13:53:34 GMT -5
I'll admit that I don't usually email back somebody with "I've received the pet" unless they specifically (then I feel obliged as they clearly care enough to ask me to send a reply) ask OR it's been a solely email transaction and it's taken a while so I figure they deserve to know. I guess I view it as "If you don't ask, you don't care" so I figure I'm bothering them if I reply back because they could be busy and not care that I replied back. I do, however, always try to remember to put "please & thank you for reading my application" if I'm applying for a pet or just the first couple of words if it's a freebie. I can see how a lot of people just say "I want" when they are adopting petz, even if they are just freebies. I don't notice a huge lack of manners but perhaps common sense? I have more of an issue with people just completely ignoring any advice, which could be considered rude and therefore link to bad manners however that's less petz-oriented and more 'mods giving n00bs advice that they don't take.' Summary: My main reason for not sending back email if not asked if that I feel like I'm bothering the person but now I'm reconsidering, haha. Though I'm more bothered by a lack of response when giving advice. I see people give advice on putting the petz version in the title and the response is "thanx" and that's it
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Post by loxfiredance on Jan 4, 2010 15:48:28 GMT -5
edit: I will admit, however, that it does bother me when people adopt petz from the freebies board and just put the petz name & their email... No "Can I have (insert name) please?" or "Thank you!". That's only since it doesn't take very long to tag those words onto a post. >_____O;; And it's kinda rude to just put the bare minimum. OMG I agree so hard. Or when people use you for petz and don't show any thanks. I've had people speak to me on AIM before, and then never hear from them again once they've got the pet they want.
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Post by xemzx on Jan 4, 2010 16:16:13 GMT -5
^ I also agree with that post of ninja devil - In those cases I often question wether they have read the rules at all, if they miss something as obvious as a form, then they likely have not read the list of rules - It only takes 2 minutes! EDIT: I think I may have misinterpreted that actually. I thought ninja devil meant when there is a form eg - petz name: Email: and people miss that out. Oh I'm getting all now.
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Post by Ashley@FK on Jan 4, 2010 23:48:24 GMT -5
I totally agree. I try to help out a lot of people.. via PM or by hex requests n such. I try to please all the time.. but don't hear much in return. No thanks no karma.. no nothing. Especially when i go out of my way to find a tutorial or something if I don't know the answer.. and hear nothing back. I also didn't hear much when I had adoptions on my site.. mostly just complaints from people wanting something.. that is unavailable (hexies) and ranting why they want it n such... n not offering anything in return? It's a hexie.. gah.. Almost 80 percent of the pups i've sent out via my adoption center at my site.. I never heard anything (hopefully they got them). **im not including the people who request them via Petzspeak, they are always greatful<3**
<3 im totally there with ya on this one.
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Post by Zekumi on Jan 5, 2010 3:55:53 GMT -5
I pretty much completely agree. And I hope I'm not in the minority. I've got a late Christmas show-off I've been meaning to hold. D:
And I do really dislike when someone gets a freebie from me and their form is just they're email and the pet. I'm like "Well jeez! Don't get pee on me from all your excitement!". xD
I'm actually thinking of when I do a show-off now of new pets, also including a show-off of an old, well loved pet. You know, just to show that they're still with me and very much played it.
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