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Post by Rabid Rach on Mar 4, 2010 17:48:16 GMT -5
I told my mum about this thread and she laughed in a 'Yeah, you're definitely not having people of the opposite sex sleep over,' kind of way. xD;
Most of my friends are blokes, too. It'd be really awkward I think. I don't have a boyfriend.
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Post by Cher on Mar 6, 2010 13:46:52 GMT -5
No way in a thousand years would my mom let my boyfriend (hypothetical boyfriend, of course...I'm single atm) sleep over. o.o;
~Maybe~ if we were sleeping in different rooms and she monitored that, but honestly, like Rach said, it just sounds awkward to me anyway, sooo...not a big deal for me.
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Post by jesi @ shotglass on Mar 15, 2010 18:41:16 GMT -5
It would have always been a no for me when I was younger. But now I really can't see my mom caring. I've lived on my own, with my exbf. & I'd spend the night at his place before we moved out. It was a big deal at first, but she just stopped caring. I was 18, it didn't have anything to do with her anymore.
& even if she did care if I had a male staying over, I'd just go stay as his place then. Though, I really can't see her caring in the slightest.
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Post by Venn™ on Apr 4, 2010 14:49:52 GMT -5
I have conditions.
The only male friend I'm allowed to sleep over with is gay... LOL. :)
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Post by p o i s o n ^_^ on Apr 6, 2010 21:47:13 GMT -5
With me, I rarely have friends round at my house, its not that I'm not allowed its that my family get in the way, I don't want people round while my family are there. I rarely stay at home myself lol.
My dad has no issues with me staying at other peoples houses even if they're guys, in fact I don't think he really cares what I do. I called him the other night when I was blatently off my face to say that I was staying over somewhere and he was like yeah whatever and hung up. So my life is pretty rule free =) and thats how i like it.
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Post by Marijean☼ on Apr 9, 2010 11:01:42 GMT -5
Haha Venn! That made me laugh XD Well, my parents are the paranoid type, when it comes to being with guys. haha. They don't mind if we hang out and stuff. But sleeping over, noooo wayyy. ha Like, a few months ago (Back last September?) My boyfriend asked to sleepover. But I didn't really want him to, because I don't like people saying at my house? :/ Like, Poison was saying, my family gets in the way of my friends and I. But anyways, I asked my mom if Andy could sleep over. "No." Was the answer. XD But, Andy and I broke up, so I guess its no big deal for him anymore.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 11, 2010 21:12:28 GMT -5
If my parents knew I was a lesbian when I was younger, I'd have likely never had sleepovers with female friends, let alone male friends, and I think its a bit pathetic to assume that whatever gender you're attracted to that you'll be attracted to every single person of that gender, which is obviously not the case. But parents will generally only want to protect their children from things of this nature as long as possible.
If they wrap their children in cotton wool for too long and they don't talk to them to educate them correctly, they can end up with angry, troubled, rebellious teenagers on their hands, and that seems to be the problem for many parents these days.
If I was a parent, I'd let my children have sleepovers with either gender so long as the other parents were ok with it all too and nothing shifty was going on, but I'd always keep communication alive and healthy between us, because that is what's most important for parents and their children.
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Post by Jack Sparrow on Apr 15, 2010 17:36:11 GMT -5
That is a MAJOR no for me. My dad had to go to Mexico for a few months for work, so my older cousin was living with us. For my birthday party, I wanted some of my guy friends to COME over. My cousin looked at me like I was crazy. She was like "No way! You ain't gonna have GUYS come here!" And they were just going to hang out and go home afterwards. But if I asked my dad? I don't even want to think about that. *shudders*
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Post by Clover on Apr 15, 2010 19:00:33 GMT -5
hahahhaha. i slept over at my friend Chris' house. my mom called me a >> Vulgar language is against the rules! <<. : D it's not like we did anything.. and there was another girl with me, which happened to be his girlfriend and my best friend, and they didn't do anything! i really don't get it hahaha.
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Post by loxfiredance on Apr 16, 2010 16:26:44 GMT -5
I think parents are just hoping their children will respect their rules while they're living with them under their roof. I don't think it has much to do with wrapping up in cotton wool.
After all, I respected my parents rules because they pay for my food, my hot water, my internet, my heating, my general upkeep. I can't afford to move out because of Uni but they appreciate this and I live here rent-free. I respect their rules and do as I'm told because I don't HAVE to stay here. I'm nearly 21, so they could kick me out. But I am courteous of their rules as it's their house and I want to live here. I had to wait until I was 18 before I was allowed Jono staying over. Although at the time it seemed grossly unfair, I can understand why they put those rules in place now. My sister was pregnant at 17 because my parents were too liberal. Luckily for me, it was a push in the right direction to wait and have a career before rushing into 'playing house' for the sake of having a boyfriend stay the night.
When you're 16 and desperately want someone to stay with you I can understand that it's very frustrating to have parents 'stand in your way'. But 99% of cases are just where the parent is trying to protect the child. There are some 'mistakes' you shouldn't learn on your own because they're irreversible (pregnancy, sti's, and of course heartbreak if you get close and he/she decides you're not worth it.) I say the last one is irreversible because you'll remember the negative experiences and it'll impact on any future relationships.
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Post by Cat on Apr 18, 2010 17:55:55 GMT -5
i've always been allowed to have the opposite sex stop over, but when it comes to my boyfriend alone, we have to be in seperate rooms. however if he's over with other people or i have other male friends round, it's fine that we share the same room/bed lol.
despite this my parents know i'm 'sexually active' with the boyf & know that when i stop at his we sleep in the same bed.. i think it just puts my mam's mind at ease when we're not together in her household type thing. idk.
i know around this time though (i'm 16 at the min) she let my sister & her ex sleep together so i imagine it doesn't really matter anymore, but i'm still quite happy with the arrangement if it makes her feel better because i only have a single bed anyway and it's bad enough just in his bed.. but mine's 3/4ft off the ground so if for some reason i was to push him out in my sleep.. it'd probably hurt lol.
but yeah, i'm allowed male friends in groups to stay over & sleep in the same room, but not my boyfriend as a single person.
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Post by loxfiredance on Apr 19, 2010 10:26:21 GMT -5
I thought you were way older than 16 cat! D:
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Post by Cat on Apr 19, 2010 12:21:57 GMT -5
hahaha, how much older is way older? i've found people think that quite a lot, which i hope is a good thing lol. but nope, turning 17 in july!
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Post by loxfiredance on Apr 19, 2010 13:14:42 GMT -5
i thought you were my age/older (20-21) haha
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Post by MaknMajor on Apr 19, 2010 23:58:40 GMT -5
I actually brought this up with parents before new years, I wanted to stay at my friends place where a bunch of our guys friends would be sleeping over as well. Had a long chat about boundaries and blah blah, but they agreed to let me go with the condition that the boys were sleeping in the other room. There are currently pictures on Facebook of the lot of us passed out (boys and girls) on my friends couch lol. My parent's didn't care much and I have guy friends over to stay a lot now. That may just be the way my relationships with them are though? We're just very close and awkwardness doesn't come in to it much.
I agree with Lox though on the respecting your parents etc. I obey the rules (with the occaisonal minor offense here and there) because they deserve it, and any rules they put into place isn't out of mean spirit, its like she said 99% just them being protective.
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