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Post by Lucid.]] on Feb 14, 2010 20:05:29 GMT -5
Kind of a weird poll but I'm just kind of wondering how this goes for everyone else. After like an hour of talking to my parents the other night they [well my mom was okay with it, and my dad was like NO], FINALLY allowed me to have my boyfriend spend the night. Except there are conditions. We're allowed to be in my room [which is in the basement, and theirs is upstairs] until we go to sleep, and then one of us has to sleep on the couch outside my room, and the bedroom door has to be open, but all the lights can be out. I'm turning 17 in 30ish days and he's 18. Kind of stupid conditions if you ask me... but whatever it works and I get to see him longer =D. Okay, vote away!
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Post by Neco on Feb 14, 2010 21:03:09 GMT -5
lol totally doesn't work for me since I already live with my boyfriend XD They've let us spend the night there several times and never had any problems with us. When I was younger though OH MAN I couldn't even mention the fact that I wanted to sleep over at a guy's house or I would be killedddd. I didn't get to really do that until I moved away to college when I was like... 20ish and I had been dating guys for several years by then and had my own apartment, so they didn't have a say anymore. They didn't like it when my boy and I moved in together, but now they love him so yeah
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Post by Rinkái on Feb 14, 2010 21:10:02 GMT -5
Well, after a big argument, my aunt and uncle were fine with my staying at my ex's. xDD Tbh, I think it's because I pulled the "I'm sixteen, and whatever happens is legal!" stunt. Though "that" never did. I <3 Pete's mum, because she never complained.
Chris (my current bf)'s parents are... weird with people staying over. They're possessive of what is theirs, and what is other peoples'. xDD So yeah, haven't stayed there. Awkwardly enough, we shared a bed at a party, at Pete's house, last Thursday. But we were all too worse for the drink to care, I think.
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Post by Clover on Feb 14, 2010 21:21:17 GMT -5
Paper thin walls, a tiny apartment, and they still won't let me have my guy friends stay over. I have a boyfriend, and I have boys that are friends. I guess my parents just think I'm a >> Vulgar language is against the rules! << so I likes to sleep with tons of guys, and I would bring them home to do that. .. >_>;
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Post by Lucid.]] on Feb 14, 2010 23:29:44 GMT -5
Ahh yeah Clover I can relate. My dad was like... "you're not going to act like a >> Vulgar language is against the rules! <<!" when I first suggested my bf be allowed to sleepover. I was like... "uh dad, do you know what the definition of a >> Vulgar language is against the rules! << is?" haha, but anyhow, my mom was on my side, so we got him to give in or else it wouldn't have happened XP.
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Post by Zekumi on Feb 15, 2010 5:18:14 GMT -5
It always made me SO, so angry that mom seemed to have a problem with Josh and I (who's my husband now) just sleeping next to each other. Like actually asleep.
Which is a non-conscious state, yes? And yet for some reason that really, really bothered her and made her very angry to see.
We'd have like ... fallen asleep in the middle of the day in my room and she'd get all irritated like it was just the most horrible thing.
I completely don't get it. Personally, my theory is she was just jealous/uneasy about out intimacy ...? Anyhoo.
I don't plan on being a parent any time soon (if at all), but I'm sure I'd probably be uncomfortable if my kid was having a boyfriend or girlfriend sleep over. Even if they were getting old enough for that kind of thing. It's hard to see your child start having relationships like that. :P
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Post by hellhoundly❣ on Feb 15, 2010 11:59:50 GMT -5
Heh, no way! When I was like, 8, and I had a best guy friend, I asked him to sleepover (And me, not knowing anything about..you know.) I didn't think there was anything wrong with it! But my mum was like "Um, maybe when you're older.." Now I think about it and shudder, it would be so awkward.
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Post by loxfiredance on Feb 16, 2010 4:28:35 GMT -5
It was always a big "No" from both parents up until I was 18. The rule was, "Once you're 18 you can make your own decisions. But until then, you are our responsibility, living under our roof. Jono cannot stay over."
They let him a couple of times though, on special occasions. Like, on my birthday, and after our Prom. But I was on the settee downstairs, and he was upstairs in my bed (my having given it up, lol.)
But since I've been 18+ (I'll be 21 this year, eek D:) he's stayed over and slept in my bed and there are no issues.
However his parents were completely different! Once my parents started letting me stay over his, (the rule was 16+ for that T_T) Jono asked his mum if we could sleep in the same bed. She was like "Yeah that's fine, idc" but then made sure my parents didn't find out. ROFL!
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Post by Arty on Feb 17, 2010 21:12:09 GMT -5
That would be a no. Then again, I don't particularly mind because I have occasional bouts of extreme insecurity and there is no way I would be comfortable.
I remember asking a guy I liked over to my house for my birthday. He said yes, but when I asked my mom, she said no so I had to email him back and be all sad, haha.
They don't even let me go over to his house or him come here. If I do meet my guy friends, I have to either a) lie about it and say I'm meeting somebody else or b) meet at a neutral location (ex. park, or go for a walk).
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Post by Rinkái on Feb 17, 2010 21:21:52 GMT -5
^ But you're 17... and you can't even have guy friends over, or go to their houses? Man... ALL my friends are guys! There's only Immy that isn't. That'd be Hell for me.
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Post by Arty on Feb 17, 2010 22:20:46 GMT -5
Well, I can have guys over if it's something for school, haha. I've had guys over for that, but unless my parents go through the entire process of getting to know the parents. Casual meetings at one's house are not... standard, for my parents. If they know the kid/guy, then they'd be more lenient.
I have one close guy friend, two close girl friends, and then just "classmates" but I tend to get along with guys a lot easier. "So guys, that video game!" xD
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Post by loxfiredance on Feb 18, 2010 11:42:49 GMT -5
My mum got funny with me when she found out me + my female friend share a bed when we have sleepovers.
It's not always to do with opposite gender, lol.
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Post by Lucid.]] on Feb 18, 2010 23:54:46 GMT -5
That really sucks Artemis! If it was up to my dad he'd be doing the same thing and I'd be limited too. Luckily my mom rationalizes with him...and I get my way. My dad has a job where he can access criminal records and stuff, and he threatens all the time to do background checks on my boyfriends, it's so overbearing and ridiculous. I hated having to lie and sneak out to see people my dad didn't approve of. Now our relationship is a little better though, and he apparently trusts me more, so I don't do those things since he's more accepting and trusts my judgement. I would probably go insane if they limited my contact so greatly with guys...
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Post by Samia on Mar 2, 2010 14:12:29 GMT -5
My parents let my boyfriend spend the night as does his parents let me spend the night over there, but we're adults that just live with my parents. LOL So it works out. We don't have conditions at my house, but we do at his house because I'm 18 & he's 17 until later this year. When I was younger my best friend was a boy & my parents let him spend the night a couple times too. My parents are very laid back & lenient because my brother used to have mini parties every weekend & only one or 2 girls would spend the night & my mum didn't have any issue with it.
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Post by misty on Mar 4, 2010 16:12:13 GMT -5
Definite no-no for me. XD
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