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Post by Bob Ness on Aug 29, 2012 19:55:33 GMT -5
I'm not exactly sure I believe in soul mates. I mean...I don't think there's someone out there for everyone. I, personally, don't think there's someone out there who'll be exactly right for me (my situation is complicated, sfshdkf). Don't get me wrong- I do believe in true love and, to some extent, love at first sight, but if we're talking soul mates...I'm not sure. I know a lot of people who marry, tell me they've found their soul mate, and break up a short time later, never to marry again. They don't have a soul mate and, if they do, he's probably halfway around the world and they've never met which kinda makes me think they AREN'T soul mates, since they don't even know the other exists. Or maybe I'm just a crazy, old cat lady who'd love to be single the rest of her life. Whatever floats your boat, though. If you believe in soul mates, more power to you.
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Post by Rinkái on Aug 29, 2012 21:56:45 GMT -5
I don't believe in souls.
But I do believe there are some people who are meant to meet... I don't really believe in fate either but I do think some things could happen for a reason - I don't know the reason or the cause of it but I'd like to think so.
I also don't think a "soul mate" or "the perfect mate" always has to be a romantic interest... it can just be someone who compliments you perfectly. A friend, an ex, a family member. Someone who makes you feel happy all the time, the one person in your life that you're the closest to.
I don't know if I've found my soulmate yet. I know of one person who has helped me through more dark times than I can count and something tells me we'll only grow even closer than we already are... But there are great obstacles in the way of that. I don't know yet about the whole soulmate business.
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Post by Victorian Cyborg on Aug 30, 2012 12:43:22 GMT -5
VC 'bout to get all life story spilling and stuff. I apologize in advance. Also this might be long. Trigger warnings as well. When I was younger I thought that soul mates, destiny, fate, was all just blah blah blah garbage. Cynicism was the definition of my grade school & high school years. I watched my schoolmates go through all the romance drama day in and day out and just chuckled knowing it was all futile and silly and we were just slaves to the chemical reactions in our bodies and brains. Important to mention is that I have depression. In high school things were really bad. Like, getting out of bed with no new marks was my accomplishment for the day type bad. While I had friends, I didn't have friends I could talk to about that kind of stuff with. Around the time I'm feeling at my absolute worst in my life this boy from my past shows up. We had met over myspace the year prior and were friends online for a few months, then he started making advances on me and I returned them for the first time in my life and got rejected. It was weird and confused me and I called him some nasty things and deleted him from everything. So now this boy is sending me a Facebook message months later about how he saw me at the park but he didn't want to say hi because he was a $@$#$@*^&%^766**. I tell him its a good thing he didn't say hi because that wasn't me at the park. We laugh at how awkward that could have been, and start talking again. Due to past experience with said boy I decided that we are going to be friends, and only friends. I didn't want love or whatever to ruin the friendship I had with this guy because he was a really wonderful person and I enjoyed talking with him about everything. He wasn't making any advances on me either so I'm like 'okay, cool, we are just going to be friends and I'm actually okay with this!'. We spent all our time together and became best friends. You know in movies how the girl and the gay guy have the bestest friends relationship? That was me and Max. He was the second person I ever opened up to about my depression (first was mom, she told me to get over it) and he was so supportive and always there for me it was amazing. We became each other's support system as he was going through lots of the same emotional downs I was. One day I'm about to walk out the door and we both say bye and then the next thing happens and we are kissing, ha ha. We don't even know what day that was so we just pretend it was Dec. 1st since that is easiest to remember. But it felt right. It went from there and Max changed from best friend to boyfriend in introductions. This is year #5 for our dating relationship and I've never been happier with another person or stayed friends with someone this long. We are exactly like an old married couple and I could go on and on about the stuff we've been through together but this is long enough. Quick example is last night I had a complete breakdown and this morning he showed up on my porch with flowers. Max isn't even a boyfriend now, he's my life partner. Even if something horrible happened and we broke up, I don't think we would ever not be friends. I adhere to the red string of fate theory nowadays. Look it up, it is quite a charming folklore that extends past love and includes all the important people of your life. tl;dr: Met my current boyfriend of 5+ years on myspace. He saved my life and is the reason I believe in the red string.
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Post by gunner on Aug 31, 2012 19:33:32 GMT -5
Wow, I'm hugely surprised at the large amount of people that believe in soul mates on this board. Soul mates, to me, seem like fantasy, stories that little girls are told all their lives, leaving men to try to live up to unrealistic expectations. In my opinion, there are numerous people that an individual can learn to live with and love, there isn't one single person that you are destined to meet. Every person has a range of personalities that they find tolerable, although they may appreciate certain ones to different degrees. In addition, I have a hard time with the concepts of fate and destiny. I find it very unlikely that this world is pre-planned by some entity, and even if it were to some extent, why would that entity feel the need to dabble in human love? Humans are itty-bitty in the grand scheme of things, and frankly, don't seem very important. Also, love at first sight is a complete joke. Lust at first sight, maybe...
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Post by Deleted on Aug 31, 2012 20:17:27 GMT -5
To me personally, yes, I believe in soul mates.
I believe that there are not any coincidences in this life; when your "gut" is telling you something about a person, its first tugs are more often than not, correct. Everyone has energy about them, of course they do, energy is what we expend to survive. No more energy=no more life. People as individuals have specific energies about them, and whether we are attuned to them or not (and whether they sync, so to speak, with our own energies) is up to how far we allow our ethereal selves roam. We are meant to meet who we meet at the precise time and place in our lives we happen to have the pleasure of meeting whomever it is. Sometimes two spirits will mesh beautifully, and other times they will not. It is all about finding that one person that is within the same vibration of energy as you are.
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Post by Rinkái on Sept 1, 2012 21:19:53 GMT -5
Wow, I'm hugely surprised at the large amount of people that believe in soul mates on this board. Soul mates, to me, seem like fantasy, stories that little girls are told all their lives, leaving men to try to live up to unrealistic expectations. In my opinion, there are numerous people that an individual can learn to live with and love, there isn't one single person that you are destined to meet. Every person has a range of personalities that they find tolerable, although they may appreciate certain ones to different degrees. In addition, I have a hard time with the concepts of fate and destiny. I find it very unlikely that this world is pre-planned by some entity, and even if it were to some extent, why would that entity feel the need to dabble in human love? Humans are itty-bitty in the grand scheme of things, and frankly, don't seem very important. Also, love at first sight is a complete joke. Lust at first sight, maybe... I hate it when people think that only men have to live up to ridiculous expectations. Equality, yo. Soul mates extend to both sexes and therefore, it's expecting both people to be "perfect". I've met a fair number of men who believe in soul mates just as much as women (sometimes more) and have incredibly unrealistic expectations of what their soul mates are going to be like.
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Post by Sunshine ~SSM~ on Sept 1, 2012 22:48:49 GMT -5
I for sure believe in soulmates. My husband and I wouldnt have met if I didnt break up with my ex who was my husbands employee. I feel in love with him right away. The first time i met my husband i was with my ex and i told him (no lie)"thats the man i'm going to marry". my ex just looked at me, i kept a straight face and walked away. 3 years later i did just that i married his boss and we have just celebrated our 2 years working on our third and working on adopting so yes i believe <3
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Post by Teapott on Dec 11, 2012 0:50:22 GMT -5
I've met the guy I'm going to spend the rest of my life with and sometimes we forget we're not the same person we spend so much time together. It is, like most things in the universe, random chance that we met - our circumstances for getting together were absolutely so impossible and ridiculous I can't even begin to explain - but we made it. I'm the happiest I've ever been, he is my best friend and knows me better than anyone in the whole wide world, and if there -is- such a thing as soulmates I know I've found mine.
The cheesy fantasy part of me wants to say we were always 100% destined to be together but he's a very logical, rational thinker and I don't quite think he'd fall for that one ;p
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Post by cath on Dec 15, 2012 21:05:10 GMT -5
I don't believe in soul mates, I don't really believe in any sort of thing like this. it's putting too much belief and trust in something that has no proper proof. kind of like religion but that's another story. I mean, believing that there is only one person in the world for you? that's pretty rubbish considering how many people there are. that would make the people who met at high school and then grew old together just really lucky. in fact if you meet them even in the same town/city would be really really lucky. and I think if soul mates existed, it would be sad for people who never married or settled down, because what, they were destined to be alone forever since they never found 'the one'? I just don't buy it. it also puts a lot of pressure on people in terms of whether the person they're with is 'the one'. it would suck to go through life thinking "I don't think he's my soul mate... or him... or him..." that just suggests why even bother with a certain person, and that's not fair on the other person I don't think.
in regards to my own boyfriend - I think we're very lucky to have found each other, and so many tiny things could've meant we'd never have met. I love him so much but I don't think we were made for each other in that sense. we get along incredibly well, sharing a lot of interests and yet give each other space, and I can't think of even one argument in the almost 2 years we've been together so far. but that's not to say I don't think I could've had this with someone else had I not gone to this specific university and met him through this specific friend and so on. obviously I'm very glad I met him and I intend to stay with him as long as he'll put up with me lol, but I just wouldn't call him a 'soul mate' in the sense that we were predestined to be together.
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